A focal point in (re) connecting

Big Boat Man enjoys having a project where friends have an excuse to stop by, see his progress, and generally share a yarn or two.   The enormity of the project hits first, so there are exclamations over the size and sturdiness of the wooden structure.

Everyone asks why the front is cut bluntly into a square face.  Well, it goes like this.  The design is Dutch.  The Dutch pay mooring fees according to the length of their boat.  Since Dutch people are clever at finding ways not to pay more than they must, they cut off the front pointy bit of the boat and shorten the bow spit.

(If you are just joining this tale and wonder how BBM received this title, please refer to the first ever posting.)

I’m always pleased to hear that BBM has had the pleasure of male company in his manly boat shed, talking about manly things.  Sometimes on a Saturday I’ll get a call to come down to the shed to see a friend who has arrived from out of town.  Sometimes they drop their wife off at the grandchildren’s place on the way to the boat shed, and in those cases I am generally not invited.

The conversations roam from the boat to shared experiences in the past, catching up with current news of mutual friends, and then back to the boat again.  Last week the friend in the picture arrived, I was called, and I grabbed my camera knowing BBM would appreciate capturing the moment.

The friend is a soul-mate of BBM and had no qualms about jumping into the boat to fully appreciate the sense of what the boat will offer.  He noted everything from the sturdiness to the little obscure finishing touches.  In the end, he was so overcome with shared pleasure of the accomplishment that he leaned down over the side to give BBM a huge hug.

Yesterday afternoon I had a meeting arranged with someone whom I know professionally, but he went to school with BBM from primary school through to secondary.  I offered our friend a ride, and asked whether he would like to stop by the boat shed where I thought BBM was still working.  He accepted, we arrived and BBM was no where to be found.  So, I offered to show him the boat anyway, knowing that it would not be the same as having the maker there to explain things.  Brynn met us at the boat shed, rang BBM and I saw a bit of a jolt go through the gentleman as we heard Brynn say loudly into her phone, ‘a childhood friend of yours has come to see the boat’.  Of course both men are well into their 70s now, and it was probably a stark reminder that they have known each other for more than 60 years.

We explained as much as we could, and in the end he had one message for BBM: ‘Tell him it is marvellous, but don’t let it go to his head.’

This is the kind of thing which lets you know that no matter how much time has passed since you last saw a friend, no matter how busy you have been in your own world, the hearts stay close and friends know exactly what to say to keep you grounded.




One thought on “A focal point in (re) connecting

  1. It seems building a boat has a healthy result of building relationships as well. I am more envious of the relationship building of this project than I am of the boat. And the boat is something to envy!


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